Explaining Why I Love Cruises So Much and Offering a Few Tips for Hitting the High Seas

Towel Art on Serende of the Seas

I have always loved to travel. My mom recounts how that, even before I was old enough to read, I would obsess over the details of family vacations. As an adult, I bear a closer resemblance to Chevy Chase’s Clark Griswold character in the Vacation films than I would like to admit, someone who views sightseeing as a task to be mastered,

I did not go on my first cruise until 2010, when I had the chance to join a wonderful group of friends on the Celebrity Solstice voyage of the Eastern Caribbean. I knew that I would have fun, but I ended up having even more fun than I anticipated. I introduced my other half to cruising in 2011 (Celebrity Millennium), and we became hooked as a couple, sailing the oceans again in 2013 (Navigator of the Seas),  2014 (MSC Divina), and 2015 (Serenade of the Seas).

Yes, the fact that I cite the names of the vessels indicates that I am detail oriented, Yet, I also do this because the identity of the ship, line, and fellow passengers become so integral to the cruise experience.  Ships take on personalities that represent so much more than just transportation.

I don’t claim expert status on the in’s and out’s of cruises. I have sailed on three different lines (Celebrity, Royal Caribbean, and MSC), and of course there are quite a few others in the marketplace. Also, all of my cruises thus far have involved the Caribbean, though I have managed to experience the three main divisions of that region: Eastern, Western, and Southern. I do hope to expand into other bodies of water in the future, Alaska in particular, but for now the Caribbean seems to be the best fit in terms of both time and money constraints.

So just why have I  become so why have the two words “all aboard” become so magical for me?

Mixing Structured Activity and Unstructured Relaxation
You can find so many beautiful and comfortable spaces to enjoy the sun and sea: reading a book by the pool, listening to live music in a lounge,  people watching in one of the high-traffic public areas, or finding an out-of-the-way deck for staring out into the ocean.  I am someone who needs some downtime to recharge my batteries, so I love having so many venues for rest and restoration.

On the other hand, as shown in the photo above, each evening, your cabin steward will leave you a printed schedule (occasionally supplemented with a work of towel art) of the next day’s activities. Since I  appreciate some degree of structure and planning, even on vacation, I love looking through the schedule with my other half and discussing the things that we might enjoy sampling either together or as a couple.

I can’t even begin to cover the gamut of  the recreation and entertainment options happening, particularly on the days when the ship sails at sea. There is bingo and a casino of course, and the trivia games can get pretty cutthroat. There is a spa and fitness facility with all kinds of treatments and classes for feeling and looking better. There are art auctions and wine tastings and karaoke contests. There are multiple options for live entertainment.

I like being able to sample different pursuits at sea, even some that I would probably never do on land. If I don’t enjoy something, I can vote with my two feet and find another event more to my liking; it’s all good. I like being a joiner and meeting new people, but when I’ve had my fill of being social, it’s nice to be able to get a serenity fix.

Excursions at Port
You don’t have to get off the boat at the different ports of call, and if it’s someplace you’ve already been it’s sort of neat to pretty much have the ship to yourself. Yet, I love sightseeing and experiencing different cultures, so I generally will be found participating in an excursion.

There are a wide range of excursions from which to choose, varying greatly in price and level of physical activity. I am not much of an athlete or daredevil, so I tend to focus on offerings that involve history, architecture,  the environment, and creatures in their natural habitat.

My default option tends to be taking a sightseeing tour either on foot to see urban locales closest to the port or via bus, van, etc. to take in the wider region. Because of my interest in ocean life, I have also taken several tours devoted to that realm, including an absolutely amazing glass bottom boat ride in the Southern Caribbean paradise of Bonaire and an enthralling interactive eco-boat tour at Great Stirrup Cay in the Bahamas. If I have to choose, those are probably the two highlights of my  cruising experience so far.

You don’t have to book an excursion to go sightseeing in a port of call, but I always figure that I want to make the most of my time with the assistance of someone who knows where they are going. Even when I am taking excursions, there is generally time before or after to walk around and take in the locale unsupervised. My other half and I have a cardinal rule though; we refuse to be those boring Americans who gravitate toward Hard Rock Cafe and other chains we have at home. I can attest that the Caribbean has so many unique memories to offer; why not live a little?

Turning Off Gadgets and Rediscovering Human Interaction
Yes, you can purchase wi-fi plans on board, but it’s rather pricey, and the speed seems akin to dial-up service when Bill Clinton was president. So, given that my job involves technology, and I relish the chance to turn off the noise for a week or more.

Cruising provides so many opportunities to get to know other people in an environment that facilitates honest to goodness, conversation from a bygone gracious era. The experience of eating dinner in the dining room hearkens back to the days when breaking bread with others was an event in itself, not just a “30 minutes or less” precursor to other commitments. Granted, on some nights I prefer to eat at the buffet to save time and dress down, but it’s neat to have those experiences that seem so elusive in daily life.

So, if you’ve never been on a cruise, and I’ve sold you on the idea, here are some tips. Again, I don’t claim to be a travel expert, but I can offer some general insights based on experience

Do Your Homework
As mentioned earlier, individual cruise lines and ships are an integral part of the experience. It’s not a matter of  “good” or “bad” choices, but rather, there are different environments catering to different kinds of travelers. Also, even within the same cruise line, size of the ship makes a difference. The new mega-size marvels offer impressive bells and whistles, but I enjoy the more relaxed environment of the relatively smaller vessels. My site of choice for getting the skinny on all of this is Cruise Critic, but I am sure there of plenty of other places on the Web.

Factor All Kinds of Expenses
Cruising in my mind offers a value for your traveling dollar, but that doesn’t mean it’s cheap. Yes, your fare includes food and entertainment, but alcohol and pretty much any beverages beyond water, coffee, tea, and lemonade are an extra charge. Be prepared for the cruise line to look for creative ways to generate extra revenue, like the bartender at the breakfast buffet with fresh-squeezed orange juice. And, of course, photographers are there to capture memories of your voyage, but whether you visit the photo gallery to purchase a package of these shots is up to you.

In recent years, most cruise lines have made the transition to automatically charging each passenger a set fee for gratuities (11 or 12 bucks or so) that gets divided among the staff, and gratuities are also added to bar tabs. Beyond this convention, tips can still be given to reward outstanding service by individual crew members. Yes, this can certainly add to the overall cost of your vacation. However, in my mind, part of being a gracious guest is caring about the people who are working so hard to take care of you.

As mentioned above, excursions are an extra, but if you really want to experience the places to which the ship is sailing, I think they are worth it.  A basic kind of tour can be found for thirty bucks or so a person, but for the most exotic kinds of fun, the sky is the limit. You can book them either through the ship or independently. There are pluses and minuses either way. Trip Advisor is a wonderful resource for booking on your own, and from my experience, you can sometimes find better selections and prices that way. Yet, if you like things more cut and dried as far as the logistics and details, stick to booking  through the cruise line.

Maybe Start Small
If you are not sure whether you will enjoying cruising, I suggest starting with a shorter itinerary, maybe four or five days. I can’t personally relate to those who don’t become total cruise addicts. Yet, motion sickness can sometimes be a factor; I do suggest packing the appropriate over-the-counter medications in case you need them. If you are someone who doesn’t like group settings involving strangers at all and are completely inflexible in that regard, cruises may not be your cup of tea. Also, if you are a 24/7 cell phone person who can’t dial it down even a bit, you may be a bit disappointed. Otherwise, bon voyage!

Four Reasons Why Asheville, North Carolina is a Special Travel Destination

Back in August of 2014, my other half and I decided to spend a weekend in the mountain city of Asheville, North Carolina. We stayed in a suburban motel and were most focused on the idea of spending a day at the Biltmore Estate, and the buildings and grounds of the George Vanderbilt family’s 8,000 acre spread certainly offered a feast for the senses. Yet, when we decided to also spend some time checking out the rest of what Asheville had to offer, we were blown away, particularly by the city’s vibrant and charming Downtown area. So, a year later we decided to splurge and stay at the trendy Hotel Indigo within walking distance to all of the hipster merriment that makes Asheville one of the hottest tourist destinations in the Southeast.

Asheville certainly holds a number of individual attractions worth visiting, but the most special thing about the city turns out to be the city itself. It’s a quirky spot of deep blue in a sea of red; the freak flags really fly here, and I say that in a spirit of love and admiration. If you appreciate off the beaten path places where the finer things in life are served up with a side dish of eccentricity, Asheville is your kind of town. You owe it to yourself to come and stay there for at least three or four days and devote the bulk of your time to eating, drinking, people watching, and enjoying the views in a place where Mother Nature and the built environment come together in perfect harmony. Rather than offering a rundown of what to see in Asheville, I would like to focus on making the sale of why it’s such a wonderful oasis.

The Mountains
Asheville is located in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains, and the historic Blue Ridge Parkway winds along the city’s outskirts. There is just something extra special about having the cultural amenities of an urban area but also the beautiful horizon always within your gaze. One day during our stay we drove a few miles down the gorgeous highway to Craggy Gardens for some hiking and a picnic lunch. The views are stunning, and the location is still close enough to town to not get too off-track from the goings-on there. Mount Mitchell, the highest point east of the Mississippi River is not too far away, though we saved that detour for a future trip.  If you are one of those serious adventurers who buy fancy gear at REI and likes to sleep under the stars, there are certainly endless options for you in the Asheville region. Yet, if you are like me and just want little three or four-hour adventures outside before you go back to a comfortable hotel room, there are also plenty of places to get that fix.

The Architecture
Downtown Asheville offers some of the best-preserved  concentrations of Victorian and Art Deco structures in the nation. In some respects, this reality began as a happy accident of sorts. The mountain city spent a good bit of the 20th Century plagued with economic busts that lasted longer than their preceding booms. Right about the time most American cities embraced the prosperity of the 1950’s and 1960’s by “renewing” their urban cores to become more like the suburbs, Asheville found itself a bit too cash-strapped to follow that path.

There were some close calls in the 1970’s and 1980’s, but by then the powers that be started to embrace a very different kind of redevelopment tied to the arts, culture, and sustainable living. Granted, plenty of places have gone the route of historic preservation in recent decades, but Asheville somehow ties it together in a way that makes a casual city stroll uniquely approachable and festive.

The People
Speaking of festive, Asheville lives up to its stereotype for being a bit off its rocker, but that’s a good thing. It’s a very safe and welcoming place, so don’t think of it as “I’m going to get mugged” kind of crazy. Rather, think of that odd relative in your extended family who you really love but who marches to the beat of a different drummer, and just think of place with civility and grace where that relative would feel welcome with open arms. Think of that relative having friends as eccentric as they are, and that’s Asheville.

From George Vanderbilt to the current crop of Millennials who make the North Carolina mountains one of the “it” places to be, Asheville maintains a track record of colorful transplants from other places putting their resources into living a life of creativity and beauty. The trustafarian identity, while not completely unique to Asheville, certainly shapes the vibe of the place.

I realize that no place is perfect, but from what I see as an outsider looking in, this diverse group of rebels and dreamers seems to have built a community that actually practices what it preaches. I have received warning that Asheville–like many cities tied to tourism–offers that awkward combination of high housing prices and a shortage of well-paying jobs. Yet, I can attest that it’s at least a fun place to visit and maybe consider relocating to if I ever win the lottery.

The Food
I don’t make a practice of speaking in the vernacular of texting and social media, but OMG! If you appreciate fresh ingredients, craft beer, and the idea of dining out as an event rather than merely a means of filling the stomach, Asheville is like Heaven! Granted, I know that the local and organic food movements have swept many urban areas across the United States in recent years, but Asheville is an epicenter of this welcome development. The actual city of Asheville has roughly 100,000 or so residents, but the range of culinary choices make it seem like a much bigger place.

I can’t even begin to provide a rundown of all of the eateries worth visiting, as I can only touch on the highlights. For carnivores, 12 Bones Smokehouse serving up shoulder after shoulder of the region’s iconic pulled pork barbecue, does indeed live up to the hype, from my experience at least. If meat is not your thing–or like me you embrace the movement of eating at least one vegetarian dinner each week–Laughing Seed Cafe proves that eating with the planet in mind can still feel scrumptious and hearty. Also, If you want to experience the definitive Southern breakfast in a setting that oozes warmth and charm, begin at least one of your days in Asheville at Early Girl Eatery.

Bottom Line
There are plenty of helpful travel guides and similar resources out there. My intent is not to take on that role here; I can simply confirm that Asheville is a very special getaway location. It is a nice break from normalcy and conventionality. Make those vacation plans now!

Some Asheville Scenes

Savoring the Charms of Charleston, South Carolina

Charleston, South Carolina was always on my list of places that I was going to visit when I got “around to it.” Literary giant Pat Conroy, one of my favorite authors, lives  approximately 50 miles away  in the town of Beaufort but has set several of his novels in the historic Southern port city. I had also previously had the opportunity to visit Savannah, GA both as on a family trip as an child and on a grown-up vacation in search of all things Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil

Charleston and Savannah, roughly a two-hour car ride apart, maintain a long-standing sisterly rivalry as the two principal urban centers of the geographically and culturally distinct coastal region known as the “Low Country.” I had always wanted to experience both cities to see the comparison for myself. So, this past March, my partner–who loves experiencing different cultures as much as I do– and I flew from Nashville (where we live) to Charleston for a little three-night getaway.

The verdict? I don’t think it’s really fair or necessary to rank these two wonderful communities that date back to colonial times as being “better” or “worse.” They both embody a unique sense of place and character. I could sum it up by saying that Savannah feels like the eccentric and sometimes rowdy sister who comes alive on Saturday nights, while Charleston is the poised and gracious hostess of a relaxed Sunday brunch.

Charleston’s Diverse Heritage
Charleston was first settled by the English way back in 1670, but the city’s appeal is not purely a matter of how old it is. Rather, Charleston offers a rich tapestry of cultures that make the city so remarkable. Charleston’s Historic District includes a French Quarter, but with a considerably more sedate vibe than New Orleans. The French men and women who made their way to Charleston in the late 17th Century were the Huguenots, Calvinist Protestants fleeing religious persecution in their motherland. So, the French influences seem to morph into other heritages. (Evidently the city does hold an annual Mardi Gras celebration though.)

Charleston and the surrounding locales are also strongly shaped by the Gullah people, the descendants of black slaves who developed their own language and have preserved many distinct cultural traditions from Western and Central Africa. The vast City Market complex provides an excellent opportunity to browse Gullah arts and crafts, though vendors display their handiwork on the nearby sidewalks as well.

Staying There and Getting Around
If you want to experience the essence of Charleston culture for your vacation, I suggest staying in or near the Downtown Historic District. We rested our heads at the Days Inn, which was conveniently located and unlike some locations in that chain was perfectly fine and did not have the feel of a meth lab/crack house combination.

The experience of Charleston on foot holds a delight for the senses; the sights, smells, and sounds  come together into something extra special. The different hours of the day all have their own feel to them. The nighttime glow of the gas lamps on the residential streets seems almost other-worldly. As a word of warning though, the Google Maps app for pedestrians is pretty worthless in the above-mentioned City Market area with its maze of  dead-end streets and alleys. So, if you are needing to get someplace on foot in a timely fashion, don’t be afraid to ask the locals for detailed directions; Charleston consistently ranks as one of America’s most polite cities.

To take in the lay of the land, there are many horse-drawn carriage tours of the Historic District. To venture out a little further, I would highly recommend a bus tour from Grayline. I don’t think it’s a regular part of the tour we were on, but the driver was kind enough to take us on detour through the campus of The Citadel, the military college that inspired Conroy’s novel Lords of Discipline. After the sun goes down, I strongly suggest taking a ghost tour. There are many from which to choose, but I can personally vouch for Bulldog Tours. Whether or not you are a fan of the paranormal, the local color will provide memorable evening entertainment.

Taking In the Historical Sites
I won’t pretend to deliver a comprehensive catalog of the countless attractions of interest to history lovers.  However, Fort Sumter, where the War Between the States began would certainly top such a list. I confess that I sometimes grow  weary with the whole Civil War re-enactment obsession here in the South. Yet, to walk the hallowed ground of the island where those ominous shots were fired provides a moving encounter with the past.

The Old Exchange and Provost Dungeon provides a fascinating glimpse into the era of the American Revolution. In addition to making a daytime stop at this important public building, we also experienced the dungeon portion as part of the above-mentioned ghost tour. Given the role of slavery in creating Charleston, the Old Slave Mart Museum tells a valuable story of history’s neglected voices. Yes, Charleston has some elements that present the Gone with the Wind spectacle of the Old South, but from what I can see, I think that there is at least some degree of effort to balance those images with the bigger picture.

Charleston has been deemed “the Holy City,” though that distinction is more a matter of the quantity of houses of worship than a particular bent to piety. There are so many sanctuaries of historic significance that going inside all of them may not be practical, and sometimes the hours during which the doors are open to tourists can seem a bit arbitrary. If you choose just one, make it Saint Michael’s with its  well-preserved 18th Century touches.

The graveyards and cemeteries associated with Charleston’s churches also provide endless intrigue. (I confess that I didn’t know the difference between a graveyard and a cemetery before my trip. I will leave it to you, dear reader, to Google it yourself if you need to.) An especially colorful series of historical events surround this distinction on the grounds of Saint Philip’s Church, which is very near the relatively small but charming structure of the French Huguenot Church. I would also be remiss if I did not mention the impressive Cathederal of Saint John the Baptist, the mother church of the region’s Roman Catholic Diocese.

A Detour to Blooming Things and Alligators
Several historic plantations on the outskirts of Charleston are open to visitors. We chose Magnolia Plantation and Gardens, which we were told was the best option for those more interested in nature and wildlife than the whole Rhett Butler/Scarlett motif. The plantation house was rebuilt after the Civil War ended, so the architecture reflects a sense of dignified restraint.

What makes Magnolia so worthwhile are the wonderful garden paths where nature truly comes alive. We were there in early March, which in the Low Country warmth marks the start of Spring, so we were truly blessed by the fragrances in out midst. One particular smell, which we later identified as the tea olive tree, permeated inside the plantation residence, so much so that I asked the guides if they were using some special type of potpourri or air-freshener. I guess it’s hard to beat Mother Nature’s gifts in that department. There are a host of specialized tours available on the property, and we opted for a boat ride through the swamp, complete with alligators.

Transportation-Related Aside: We had not rented a car for our stay, so we chose the ride-sharing service Uber for the 10-mile journey from our hotel to the Magnolia. Using Uber’s smart-phone app to book a return trip proved impossible, so along with a family of fellow Magnolia visitors  in the same predicament, we relied on an old-school taxi service to get back into the city. I don’t mean this as a slam against Uber, as the functionality works well under most normal circumstances. Yet, the two travel lessons here are that it’s essential
to be able to formulate a back-up plan on the fly and that total strangers can become friends in the midst of unscripted little adventures.

Filling the Stomach and Quenching a Thirst–Not a Problem Here
Food and drink are a big part of the Charleston experience. Thankfully, the walking we did sort of balanced out the calories we consumed. Upon checking into our hotel around lunchtime, we were enticed by a friendly gentleman with a plate of  scrumptious hush puppy samples to try Hyman’s Seafood. We enjoyed delicious moonshine margaritas, as it was five o’clock somewhere. I actually opted for a land-based entrée of fried pork chops, which were very good. Yes, it’s kind of touristy, but Hyman’s  serves up good eats in satisfying quantities, and the mementos on the wall highlighting the owner’s active involvement in Charleston’s Jewish community were a nice touch.

I don’t have the time and space to provide a rundown of all that we ate and drank during our vacation. Yet, in terms of atmosphere,  a sunset dinner at the waterfront eatery Fleet Landing was certainly a highlight. I am not the biggest seafood fan on the planet, but I made do just fine with my standard choice of grilled tilapia. My other half was not blown away by the more exotic offerings he sampled, but I would still give a thumb’s up in terms of the picturesque scenery. A couple of other dining highlights included breakfast at Eli’s Table and a wonderful and reasonably priced (The latter adjective is not one that gets used very often in discussing Charleston restaurants.) lunch at Gaulart & Maliclet Fast & French Café.

It’s not that Charleston is just about restaurants, though they do seem to occupy a major part of the built landscape. Yet, I can sum things up by saying that Charleston is a feast for memorable experiences of all kinds. In a nation becoming increasingly homogenized, it’s one of those places to visit that has a mindset and a style all its own.

A Gallery of Charleston Highlights